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Hey we're Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo

We are the co-authors of the Amazon best seller, The 6 Pillars of Intimacy® and 7 Days of Sex Challenge book. We believe that the healthy combination of sex, love, and commitment is more than the foundation of a strong marriage… it’s the glue that will keep a marriage together. We write, podcast, and coach couples around the world. We have been married since 1996 and have a son and a daughter. We live in Naples, FL

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5 ways to talk and ACTUALLY connect

"We talk all the time, but I don't feel like we're really connecting." I (Alisa) can't tell you how often I hear this from couples I'm coaching. It can be incredibly discouraging because you feel like you're doing what you're supposed to... and yet you don't feel close emotionally. One thing I've found in working with so many couples is that what works for one couple might not work for another. So if you've just been trying to "talk more" without much success... you might be going about it...

With our anniversary right around the corner (29 years on Sunday!) I've been thinking about traditional anniversary gifts... What I love most is that each theme reflects the growing strength of marriage through the years. You start out with delicate paper in year one, then upgrade to wood, bronze, crystal, until you eventually reach unbreakable diamond (year 60). It's such a beautiful picture of how time and life's pressures create an unshakeable love and an extraordinary marriage. Now, we...

5 Essential Steps to Fix a Sexless Marriage

Best of the Month Check out the top content from this month, including this week's featured article 👇 NEW: Reignite Sexual Desire Having sex less than 10x a year? Read this NOW. Read article Episode 874 What if you focused on slow, mindful touch rather than rushing to an orgasm? Listen now The Silent Bedroom Struggle There's a struggle happening in bedrooms across America that no one talks about: the gap between wanting passionate sexual intimacy and having no idea how to create it. Foreplay...

It's back to school season! 🏫 And while you might be focused on getting your kids ready for school or sending your young adults off to college, there's someone else who needs to head back to school: YOU! Marriage is an ongoing education in who your spouse is continually becoming. Especially as you hit midlife, you're both always growing and changing. The person you married isn't exactly the same person sitting across from you at breakfast today (and that's actually a beautiful thing). 📚 But...

You're juggling work, kids, and a million responsibilities. The last thing you need is your spouse hiding purchases or arguing about every dollar spent. But here's the brutal truth: financial problems fuel 20-40% of all divorces. Sound familiar? Heated arguments over money decisions Secret spending behind each other's backs Hidden debt that suddenly surfaces Constant tension about financial priorities These money issues don't solve themselves. The fastest way to protect your marriage is to...

Best of the Month Check out the top content from this month, including this week's NEW article 👇 It's Time to Get Away Together Here's your permission slip to plan that couples getaway you've been putting off. Read article Does Longer Sex = Better Sex? How to create sexual intimacy that satisfies both of you. Listen now Our Favorite Bedroom Items Unwind and connect sexually with your spouse. Read article Masking Your Feelings to Keep the Peace? Stop pretending, start being real. Listen now ▶️...

For most married couples, forgiveness is a daily practice. Whether you're letting go of the little things (like your spouse loading the dishwasher “wrong”) or reeling from a deeper betrayal like infidelity or secret spending... it still hurts. We’re human, and we all make mistakes. But when all you feel is pain, it’s easy to get stuck in a cycle of resentment. What we've learned over the years is that forgiveness isn’t about excusing the behavior or letting your spouse off the hook. It’s...

Low libido can show up at any time. But the more I talk with couples going through hormonal changes, the more I see how unhelpful some of the common advice can be: "Just use more lube." "It's all in your head." When your hormones are all over the place and you feel like a stranger in your own body, those one-liners don’t cut it. You need real insight into what’s happening, plus proven ideas for what you can actually do about it. That’s what today’s article covers. Because your desire matters,...

Summer officially starts tomorrow, and you know what that means: Heat waves. Vacations. Packed schedules. Wherever you are, the temps are beginning to rise. And let's be honest... When you're both melting, sex can be the last thing on your mind. The great thing about summer is that it can force you to slow down and find new ways to connect (without overheating). We've discovered 11 surprisingly effective ways to cool down together that will actually bring you closer than ever. 👉 Click here to...

Someone in the ONE Family recently messaged us with a question that I know SO many of you have wondered about... They wanted to talk to their spouse about sex toys but didn't know where to start. Even just saying the words out loud felt awkward... Sound familiar? Listen, we've been there too. Sex toys have enhanced our sexual intimacy in so many ways (more fun, creativity, and excitement just to name a few!). But getting to that place of comfortability takes time. And yes, you'll probably...